Rory might see Dean as the boring-but-reliable guy, but over and over again, he shows himself to be patronising and controlling, and uncomfortable with the idea that Rory might have a life or a future that's bigger than his or him.Rory: Usually. Honestly, this Gilmore Girls rewatch is revealing to me that everyone is even more terrible than I remember them being, and desperately hoping that we're not supposed to like any of Rory's high school boyfriends, because while they might be realistic, they're terrible guys to idealize. And when his actions end his marriage anyway? Well, that's Rory's fault for not being perfect. Yet he doesn't intend to actually end his marriage with Lindsey, because he still needs the perfect life on the hook, the wife trying so hard to be domestic enough to please him and the pining over perfect Rory on the side.
#Rory and the laundry guy how to
Lindsey runs around, desperately trying to learn how to cook and be the perfect Donna Reed-esque wife so that Dean will love her, and none of it is good enough for him, because no one can be as perfect as Rory in his mind. She often seems more trapped by Dean than in a relationship with him.Īnd then, of course, Dean marries Lindsey after being together for about half a year, and then stares moony-eyed across Stars Hollow at Rory, hooking up with her because he likes her more than Lindsey, and then shouting at Lindsey and making her feel terrible afterwards. And let's be fair, Rory is being a terrible girlfriend, but that's a reason for Dean to break up with her, not for him to control her. In Season 2 and 3, he's either bored by Rory's interests or yelling at her for not acting how he would like her to. He hates him automatically, because Jess and Rory get along. He's just furious that Rory got in a car with Jess at all, and his forgiveness for his girlfriend breaking her arm is treated as some great kindness on his part. He hates Jess, but not because of any particular incident. But when she's in a car crash, he's not worried that she was in a car accident and ended up in the hospital. In Dean's defense, Rory's behavior towards him in Season 2 echoes Jess's eventual behavior in Season 3, as she ignores him, forgets to call him, and generally keeps him on the hook.
Or there's the laundry incident, where Dean refuses to understand that Rory might want to spend some time alone, and definitely can't stand the idea that she might want to spend time with people other than him. She shouldn't be so afraid of telling her boyfriend that she lost a piece of homemade jewellery after a year of daily wear, but no-one stops to point out how unhealthy her panic is, not even Lorelai. Like the bracelet incident, where Rory is terrified of telling Dean that she lost the jewellery he made her, even though it was an accident, and she's clearly distraught. No actual woman could live up to that ideal, so his highschool girlfriend became it in his head.Īnd there are many moments in Season 2 which are demonstrably not okay. No wonder he ended up being unhappy in his own marriage and idealising Rory. The first sign is that godawful Donna Reed episode, where he talks about how nice and wonderful 1950s housewives are, and Rory ends up roleplaying one to make him happy. And he happily read books that Rory recommended and talks about them, because his personality is retconned to make Jess seem more likeable in Season 2.īut while Jess is cruel and nigh emotionally abusive by being so distant, Dean is worryingly controlling. He can rebuild cars, and he makes one for Rory. I liked how he comforted Rory during her breakdown mid-Season 4.
That's more of a statement of how awful Jess is than anything in praise of Dean, but it still feels wrong to say.Dean does have some good qualities, as a person and as a boyfriend.
I think he may be a better boyfriend and person in general than Jess. Since I maligned Jess a couple of weeks ago, it seems only fair to turn my attention to Rory's other high school boyfriend, Dean.Īnd god, I hate to say it, because I've always hated Dean, but.
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